Don’t rape the Rape issue!


The recent delhi gang rape incident has enraged the entire nation.

But despite this fury, women are still being assaulted.

As if to add salt to the injury, politicians including women made some insensitive remarks on this entire issue.

For some reason all this seems staged to me, else no politician and I mean NO politician would make such illogical statements at a time when the entire nation is in fury.

All this I suspect is done to grab media’s attention. So that people will forget about amending the laws and will instead spend time outraging over the politician’s statement.

But I hope that their plan fails big time...

Just check some of the most stupid comments made by them:

“Ek hi shabd hai – Maryada. Maryada ka ulanghan hota hai, toh Sita-haran ho jata hai. Laxman-rekha har vyakti ki khichi gayi hai. Us Laxman-rekha ko koi bhi par karega, toh Rawan samne baitha hai, woh Sita-haran karke le jayega.” – Madhya Pradesh Industry Minister Kailash Vijayvargiya 

 “Those who are coming in the name of students in the rallies, sundori, sundori mahila (beautiful women), highly dented and painted” President’s son Abhijit Mukherjee.

And if you thought only men make such statements, you are wrong.

Here’s what a lady belonging to TMC had to say about the Park street gang rape case:

“If you ask me about the Park Street case, I have to tell you that it was not rape. It was a deal, which turned into a misunderstanding between the clients and the lady” - Kakoli Ghosh Dastidar.

I am a born cynic, so I had lost all hopes about amendments in the laws.

After all, when your own representatives blame women for ‘provoking’ the men to rape them, what more can we expect?

They are encouraging the men indirectly to do what they want to the ladies... it’s perfectly ok because it’s the woman who crossed the lakshman rekha. 

I am also equally disgusted with Shashi Taroor’s suggestion to name the law after the girl’s name. Sir, first let the law be amended. Then we can discuss about the nomenclature. 

As it is women are not really treated well in our nation. There are very few female leaders in the Corporate sector and other fields.

And now with such people around us, I am not sure what would be the repercussions.

A report in Firstpost says that many women have already quit or reduced their working hours after the incident.

While the long term solution is to amend the laws, sensitize the police and change the mindset of the society, I don’t see it happening for another decade.

So till that is done, all that we women can do is learn to protect ourselves.

Carry a pepper spray with you, learn some self defence techniques and most importantly help others when they are in trouble. The girl’s life would have been saved, had people helped her on time.

Let the society tell anything, you wear what is comfortable to you, you meet whichever friend you want, but yes do ensure that you abide with the timings set by your parents or spouse for returning home. Because back there at home, people will be worried about you. So better not to give them unnecessary tension.

Ok, I am done with the ranting. As I said, looking at how lightly our politicians are taking this issue, I am not really expecting any changes in the existing law. At least not for now.

Just hope that all these rapists, not just in this case but all other cases are subjected to harsh punishment without any further delay. Unfortunately politicians, media and people are focusing on this case only. Punish everybody pls.

At least itna toh karo yaar!

P.S: Beside the current political drama, there is one more thing that is worrying me. Who do I vote in 2014 elections? The Congress who does nonsensical things or the BJP who talks nonsensical things or the opportunist 3rd front? It is like choosing between the devil and the deep sea. Though I respect Narendra Modi, I can’t see him as the PM of my country. His 50 crore girlfriend remark and girls dont want to put on weight hence they don't drink milk statement was enough to overshadow all the developments he has done to the wonderful Gujarat. If a potential PM can’t respect women, what do we expect from the commoners?





8 comments:

Unknown!!! said...

Well Said Guru!..
Leaders should set example and think more like a visionary and should empathize with people following them and choose words while taking a stance..
We have many leaders..who dont know what people really want..they just want to blabber something to encash this ocassion..
All those who take a diplomatic stance and those who keep silent also are not great leaders..may be we can say they are intelligent ones..

Ajay Kontham said...

Rightly Said.

There are laws, just weak lays. There are leaders & politicians, just weak leaders and corrupt politicians.
I fear the inevitable.
I fear nothing good can come from these people.

A Nation has outraged, but they just make stupid comments/remarks. What good can they bring out?

Justice is what we want. But, come on, its the Indian government we are talking about.
We have to change the thinking, those leaders thinking, those culprits' thinking and that has to be done from scratch. So, I ask, "Can this be done?"

Till all this is done, the self defensive techniques and pepper spray are the only things to help.

I Hope all this changes, someday, may be. :(

Anita Jeyan Sandeep said...

Well said. What if we could just sweep off all these ignorant morons and elect logical and well read people in their place? Sadly such people dont exist :-(

Jack said...

Gayathri,

What you say about these politician making such statements to divert media attention seems worth a thought. It could be so at least in case of some of them. More than police or legal system changes, it is mindset of society which needs urgent change. We need to remove gender discrimination in totality as that is what makes a male feel superior. We should do this at our level to start with by treating daughters at par with sons. Unfortunately many women who at younger age may have resented such discrimination join the mindset of society at elder age by favouring sons. This needs to change and women have to start trend for equality at every level.

Take care

I,Human said...

Nicely said...

voice of the heart said...

Its important that we vote right this time.Personally I would say we dont have a perfect choice for PM.But we must go for the best option available right now.
50 crore girlfriend was a taunt at the corruption of a senior Congress leader not sure about the next comment on malnutrition.
But I would still say vote for Modi this tym n convince others as well.You dont want a divided house this time.

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