Firstly, let me thank you all for your response to my earlier post on female’s harassment. Seriously I was really happy to see more of men supporting my thoughts than women (yes out of 7 comments, 5 were from men). This proves that there are many gutsy and nice men around me and not all men are chauvinistic pigs. I am proud of my blogger buddies, especially the men.
Ok, now that I am done with my big, thank you speech…it’s now time for me to talk about another issue that I completely detest. It's about some women who are catty enough to feign sexual and mental harassment just to settle scores with men.
Honestly, I have never come across such incidents till date. But I have heard and read a lot about it. It’s sad especially if the man in question is not guilty. It’s bad because if the supposedly guilty man is innocent; his future, his life becomes tainted and it takes hell lot of time to cleanse his tainted image. Such incients may be occurring everywhere, but rarely are they highlighted.
I wonder what compels a woman to take such a drastic step? What gives her that immense strength to fabricate such a horrific story? Recently, I had come across an article stating the reason behind such incidents. The article (I could not find it on net) stated that when a woman is pressurized by her male colleagues or bosses to work for extra time, or when a woman is scolded in public by her boss or in some cases if the man in question is a public figure and the woman is publicity hungry, she tends to fabricate such stories and gain sympathies and publicity.I do not know how true it is, but it is what I read.
Few years back, as a part of my college project…I had got an opportunity to interview a cop. In the middle of the conversation, he drew my attention towards the never-ending stack of case files on his desk. It was he who told me that cops find it really difficult to distinguish a real harassment case from that of a fake one. When I asked him why, he said this: “arre madam, mahila aandolanwale humein enquiry karne dete kahan hain. Kehte hain kii aurat se aise questions nahi poochna. Toh ab humein kaise pataa chalega kii kaun saccha hain aur kaun jhoota. Cross question karo toh hee pataa chalega naa kii asliyat kya hain”. Translation of what he said: Arre Madam, the Feminist group never allows us to do enquiries. They say we are not supposed to talk to a woman like that. Now how are we to know what is the truth and what is not. Unless and until we don’t cross question them, we shall not know the truth. I told him that if a woman cop is allowed to enquire, sab sach bahar aa jayega. I don't know if he got my point.
I do not know what to suggest to my fellow male colleagues. Because unlike eve-teasing where both men and women know the defence techniques; in such cases, its really hard for a man to defend himself (everyone is obviously going to hold the man's collar first). So I am seriously short of advices (especially when my hawk-eyed senior is hovering above my head to ensure that I work and not chat on G-talk). With my senior looking at the opposite direction, I am typing this out as fast as possible...please men don't take any serious big time pangas with a woman. If you have any kind of issue with your female colleague...go, approach her and sort it out in as professional manner as possible. If still things do not improve...make another female colleague of your's to talk to her. Probably that would work. If you think, there can be any other ways to avoid getting in trouble...do put it in here or even in your personal blog.
Note: I believe in gender equality. Every coin has two sides. So it's not that a woman alone faces trouble...even poor men too are equally susceptible to variety of troubles...so ladeej if you see a guy in trouble, help him out (even if his male ego gets shattered) and men if you see a lady in trouble...gear up and show your macho strength. Afterall, ek insaan hee dusre insaan kii madad kar sakta hain. Anything else...no. Atleast not now when my senior is back to give me a mountain of work :(